from my own life
mau ke ea o ka 'aina i ka pono.
very life, breath &
of the land
in right relationship
people, nature & Spirit.
I learned the hooponopono
practice of making amends from Shawn LaSala Kimmel,
my first lomilomi
make mistakes and then I long to shrink into nothing
Sometimes I make mistakes. I sometimes do things that
cause trouble for
other people. When
I do so, I sometimes
feel embarrassed. In
the past, after
making mistakes I sometimes energetically shrank into a small ball and
could disappear. I
contracted and became
sharp and brittle. Oh
dear! bad became
worse! Have you
also experienced this?
Shawn challenged me to review
life and to identify any situations in which I had caused harm. She invited me to then
When we harm another we may feel bad, and we may contract or shut down
in order to avoid
bad. Our Light
may shrinks. Making
amends frees our Light
to grow again.
Reflecting on my life I
occasionally stealing Charleston Chew candy bars from Woolworths as a
recalling this memory I felt
neutral; the child who stole those candy bars had learned her
and minimal harm was done. I have released any guilt I
may have once felt
about these stealing incidents. I
no need to make amends for these thefts.
Then I remembered a much
situation - one
that involved $10,000
and that had occurred after I was married.
My former husband and I received money based on an
I didn't personally originate this
deception, when I learned about it after the fact, despite my clear
I did not set the record straight.
thus became a party to the deception and also a beneficiary of money
that came our
way. We used the money to buy our home. Recallingthis incident, I
felt my Light grow dim as my breath almost stopped.
I was afraid I could
home if I
acknowledged the original deception and I also did not want to re-involve my
former husband in this
situation. Doing so might create more harm than
good. I chose
instead to make amends by paying off about
$10,000 of someone else's debt which I was not responsible for. I
have also created
a refuge and community in my home for a number of special and in some
vulnerable people for the past couple of decades.
fess up right away
However, the biggest learning
me from this experience came not from easing my guilt about this
particular deception. The
biggest learning came from mistakes I
made after that time. Now,
when I cause a
problem for someone rather
contracting and freezing, I can quickly fess up and make amends. This minimizes the damage
done, and makes life
easier for everyone involved.
I have successfully passed this lesson on to my
son as well. Hooray!! This
has been a powerful
hooponopono lesson for me
There is always a way to make
amends, even when the person involved has already died, and even when
original wrong-doing was horrific.
taught this message. Here's
a passage from the movie about his
a man wails to Gandhi, "
going to Hell! I
killed a child! I smashed his head against a wall."
Gandhi asks "
The man replies, "
killed my son! The Muslims killed my son!"
Gandhi says, "
I know a way out
Hell. Find a child, a child whose mother and father have been killed
him as your own..... Only be sure that he is a Muslim and that you
raise him as
Making amends isn't always easy, but it is always possible.
I can dump stones from my bowl and find
ways to nurture the perfect Light I was
born with at any time.
the Light and look for an opening!
Shawn, for your hooponopono teaching.
read ho'oponopono part 1: what is hooponopono
to read ho'oponopono part 2: concepts embedded in
to read ho'oponopono part 3: traditional family
to read ho'oponopono part 4: contemporary
hooponopono, cutting cords
to read ho'oponopono part 5 on being Hawaiian
to read ho'oponopono part 6: making amends
to read ho'oponopono part 7: radiating Light
to read ho'oponopono part 8: we live in an
to read ho'oponopono part 9: appendix - SITH®
2010 Barbara Helynn
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